Love and Marriage

 

    This week we talked about marriage and the love side of marriage. We talked a lot about love and how couples can communicate love. Marriage is hard and nobody said it would be easy but communicating with your loved one is important especially in intimate settings.

    Biologically men and women are on two separate times during intimate relations. men and women should communicate understand how their partners feeling for this duration of time. it can be really frustrating when nobody is talking or communicating how they feel during these very special sacred intimate experiences. this not only happens during intimacy but also happens outside of intimacy and can really damage a marriage when men and women husband and wife are communicating two different people and not to each other.

    Communicating is like talking about and distributing the house chores, talking about family matters, expressing interest in financial responsibility and financial stability in the relationship. Communicating is more than just a long conversation at night it takes time to understand and talk through and think through situations that impact the family and the relationship. it is just a natural tendency to turn to our parents because that is who we have always talked to and communicated with. I know for my life I always turn to my mom for any advice situation or just literally to complain about my situation. she is always there always ready to pick up the phone and talk about whatever I want to talk about. no, I am not in a relationship now, but this will be a very hard thing for me to turn off in turn to my significant other when the time comes.

    Everybody has boundaries in the ideal boundaries in a relationship are very clear and pronounced boundaries where everybody is safe protected and feels like they have a voice. 1-2 people decide to get married they should be the ones that they communicate with and the person they turned to. Now this does not come quickly does not come easily and does not come naturally. it takes real work to turn to your husband or wife in a situation instead of turning to an outside source like a parent or friend. communicating and understanding where the other person is coming from and what you can do to help the other person can really strength in and keep a marriage or relationship together for a very long time. talking with and having conversations about situations and family matters is hard for people to make the change and to really understand that the person you have married or are in a relationship with is your person.

    Whether people are religious or not it states in the Bible when we are married or committed to another person we must turn away from our parents or caregivers and turn to the person that we are falling in love with. the Bible uses a great word "cleave". this word has two meanings the first one is to rip apart or to cut the second meaning is to make one meld together and make one. how does interesting that this word has two meanings but has the exact opposite meanings of each other. we see this word all throughout the Bible and especially when talking about marriage. the Bible says to cleave unto our wives or husbands and to get rid of the things that are not our husbands or wives. I think this is interesting because even if you are not religious at all you kind of know and are familiar with a Bible you know what it is, and you know what it looks like, but the words inside really are impactful canned can help strengthen a marriage.