Gender is Essential

 

I know I know this is a touchy subject but this week in class we talked about genders. Not only why we have two separate genders of male and female but need a central role in the biology behind these two separate genders. We talked about the differences between boys and girls and males and females, and we got to watch an interesting video about these essential roles and the differences between boys and girls. We made a list of what girls do and what boys do. on the girl’s side, we wrote down facial-focused and nurturing. on the boy side we wrote down startled reflect, protecting and providing, and reactions.

When we look at the tendencies and just the natural ways that boys and girls differ it is surprising how early in childhood boys and girls differ. We can tell the boys and girls are built differently and wired differently by the way they pick toys. We read an article that says even infants will know which toys they are playing with. Baby girls tend to carry around baby dolls or stuffed animals and carry them around wrapped in some sort of blanket or washcloth. They are focused on the facial features of the baby doll or whatever they have wrapped up in their blanket. A baby boy really our action-focused hey focus on the movement of the ball in your hand or just your hand in general. As infants turn to toddlers, they are naturally geared towards their gender-specific toys. Little girls love stuffed animals with faces baby dolls and anything they can Playhouse with or be a mom too. Little boys love trucks cars playing in the dirt and being a little bit rougher.

Society today is trying to meld the two genders together and they are trying to make just one gender-neutral toy. Now don't get me wrong I love gender-neutral toys and I love gender-neutral books and all the things that little kids love to play with but genders are essential to who we are and how we interact with the world around us.

I remember when I was younger, I did not really love playing with cars or trucks or even being dirty I loved playing house and playing with baby dolls or Barbie dolls. Not only because I am a girl and that is what was catered towards me, but I had an opportunity to play with every type of toy. My mom ran a daycare for 20 years and gratefully she got to raise all three of her children in a very safe environment where we could explore who we are. We were always able to play with cars trucks and other boyish things or even gender-neutral things. I typically gravitated towards the baby doll the kitchen set and coloring. Whereas my brothers gravitated towards cars blocks being outside and the boy types of things that they had. I had thousands of opportunities to play with the cars and the blocks, but I did not just because naturally, I wanted to play with the girly things. My youngest brother loves sports. he plays three different sports and three different seasons of high school he plays football in the fall basketball in the winter, and he plays golf in the spring. He's always loved playing with balls like footballs and basketballs and was in sports at a very young age. He was so naturally talented in sports that my mother elected to put him in a higher category just because he loved it so much. he played with older kids so that he was not the star of the show and could be challenged by the way others were playing.

I know it is hard to wrap your head around two separate genders, but the science is here and there really are not two separate genders in the world. It is just natural for boys to gravitate towards boy things and girls to gravitate towards girl things. It is not in the way we were raised it is in our biology it is in our genes. we are here to knowing who we are and what we can do for society. society is made up of males, females, boys, girls, infants, toddlers, elementary school kids, high schoolers, Middle schoolers, College kids. We are all essential to society. We just are essential in our genders to society.